Tuesday, May 5, 2015

Thoughts and Tips on Edging

A while back I wrote about multiple ejaculations through edging.  Recently I have begun to take up edging again, but not just to have multiple ejaculations during sex.  There are many benefits to edging that I would like to talk about here, as well as a few things I have discovered since my first article.

Like I mentioned in a recent post, I got the flu a little while ago and it caused my sex drive to plummet to absolute zero.  Rarely have I ever been that uninterested in sex.  I went a while without porn or regular masturbation; this helped me recover, but not completely.  Even after fapstainance, I was not getting up to speed.  My dick just wasn't getting as hard as it normally would and I wasn't getting the satisfaction out of masturbation or porn that I was getting.

At one point, I was a sexual god; I could fuck my girlfriend ad infinitum until she was fully satisfied, and I could cum on/in her 6+ times.  Good thing we were both cum fiends!

Remembering back, I realized that I became a sexual god because I had trained myself through edging.  My workload in my professional life for the last 2 years had trained my brain and my dick to be lazy and only want what only seems like only the highest form of gratification.  I'm talking about wanking to porn for about 15 minutes and then having a full orgasm.

In retrospect, I wanted to go back to a time where I was in a constant state of horniness and I could fuck a girl senseless and squirt my cum all over her without losing my stamina.  So I started to edge again.

For those of you who are not familiar with edging, it's all about carefully masturbating while not having a full orgasm.  Some would define it as "just don't ejaculate" but, as I have previously demonstrated, it is not about the ejaculation but the orgasm.  The ejaculation can be separated from the full orgasm and be very pleasurable in and of itself.  My general edging method is to simply masturbate as long as I can without having an orgasm before I just can't hold it back anymore, at which point I may decide to let my orgasm finally come(it's pretty glorious), or I will stop completely until the following day.  Right now, I am doing far more of the latter.

The reason to edge while still having an orgasm is not only to increase the overall pleasure but to teach yourself where your PONR is and how to mentally and physically prepare yourself to not have an orgasm if you decide.  I'm taking edging to a further extreme by not having a full orgasm at all, and I've been doing this day after day for about a week now.  I did fail initially, but it didn't take me long to get my discipline back.  Failure is an integral part of learning.

Here's an outline of the benefits I have found in edging:

  • Orgasms feel so much better when you've been holding them off for as long as possible.
  • It teaches you to be a better lover.  If you have control over when you orgasm, you can pleasure your mate for as long as she needs you to.  With discipline and knowing your limits, you won't be having issues being finished too soon. 
  • You can learn to ejaculate multiple times without having a full orgasm, hence bypassing the evil male refractory period.  If you or your lover has a cum fetish, this would allow you to squirt cum without losing interest; this is perfect if you've been wanting to taste your own fresh cum.
  • The prolonged orgasmless masturbation brought on by edging can be more pleasurable than typical masturbation itself.  It's not always easy to appreciate the finer things in life, but once you can appreciate the heightened state of arousal from edging you will have put yourself on a whole different level of pleasure and thought.  Sex and masturbation become less and less of a means to an end.
  • In general, you may feel like more of a sex fiend than even from fapstainance alone.  I believe that putting myself in long states of heightened arousal without orgasm keeps me in a relatively horny state for hours or days.  I'm noticing women far more and I desire them more than usual; sometimes seeing a woman that I want to fuck blocks out all my other logical thoughts.  Since I desire women even more, I actually feel more motivated to go up and talk to them.
  • Your penis might only stay in a semi-flaccid state when not in use; it may feel like your body is constantly getting ready for sex.  This can be a good or bad thing depending on who you are and where you work.
All I can find are benefits.  Everything I have listed here is a counter-argument to what the clowns at yourbrainonporn.com and fightthenewdrug.org have to say.  Actually, I feel bad for linking you to what are panaceas of misinformation and bad science.  If there's anything inherently harmful about watching porn and edging, I certainly haven't experienced it.  I'd love to write a whole article dedicated to deconstructing those websites that promote myths about the harm of porn and frequent masturbation, but that's a large undertaking and my be a while from now.

Anyway, if at least one of those benefits I listed appeals to you, definitely give edging a try if you haven't already.  Here are some tips that may help:
  • Consider not using lube.  While I absolutely love using lube, I don't think that it's very well suited for when you are training yourself through edging since the lube can feel too good which will give you much less control if you come close to the PONR.  I've gone over the PONR a few times before because even though I had removed my hands from my penis, it would accidentally touch against my leg or a blanket and the lube would make it feel so good that I'd instantly shoot.  Maybe once you have mastered edging without lube you can move on to using lube continue the challenge and further improve your performance.
  • Turn your eyes away from any porn or erotic imagery when you are right at your PONR!  I've had instances where I'd get right up to a point where I couldn't wank anymore without having an orgasm, but because I was still staring at a screen full of naked ladies I would come just from the visual stimulation alone.  Hands free!  It's pretty cool actually, but also disappointing if you are on an edging regime.  This does not happen when I make sure to look away from my computer when I'm close to having an orgasm.
  • Learn to be able to recognize when your vas deferens fills up with cum to prepare for ejaculation/orgasm.  People who are inexperienced tend not to notice when it happens, but you can definitely feel it once you realize when it happen and how it feels.  It's a great indicator of that you are getting close to your PONR and you can use it to gauge when to try to ejaculate without cumming(which is very difficult at first for a while).
  • Even if you aren't at your PONR yet, occasionally interrupt yourself with serious business such as work/chores/homework.  Make sure the serious business you have to take care of is completely antithetical to being aroused; once your penis is soft again, go right back to masturbating.  This self-teasing will drive your ANS wild, creating a roller coaster of arousal that is yet another challenge will help you master your PONR.
  • Get plenty of sleep!  Lack of sleep reduce's one's ability to fight off the PONR.  It's easy to forego several hours of sleep when one is in the middle of an edging regime; the pleasure makes it very hard to stop.  If you have lost sleep from edging late at night for more than a day, consider taking a break from edging for a day and be sure to get a solid 8 hours of sleep in.
THOUGHT: Are there any women who edge?  I have never heard of female edging.  Even though women do not have the refractory period that men do, I'm sure the other benefits such as the euphoric state during extended arousal and stronger orgasms would apply to them too.  If you are a woman and you've tried edging, please leave a comment on your experience!

Trying homosexuality

If you had asked me even 3 years ago if I would ever want to have sex with another man, my answer would have been no.  As very open as I was, I couldn't picture myself wanting any part of the male body.

Over time, I have come to realize that there are very few fetishes or sexual interests that I can't get in to or at least understand at a basic level.  Not that homosexuality is a fetish(lol), but it was an idea I hadn't yet introspectively explored until quite recently until I rethought a stance of mine and later had a bit of an epiphany.

I have encouraged women to explore homosexuality if they ever feel such inclinations; this is not just because I think it's hot but because people should feel free to explore every avenue that brings them pleasure and happiness.  Back in 2011, I even told my straight girlfriend about how women tend to be much more inclined towards bisexuality than men are, and that should she ever want to experiment with another woman that I'd support her in doing so(as a lump grew in my pants).  I'm sure that may have contributed to our eventual breakup.  Ha!  But I had far worse problems for her to have legitimate complaints about(most of which I have hopefully solved by now).  Seriously, I had a lot of personality issues, and some of them even permeated into this blog.

I was very one-sided and hypocritical about that position, and mostly just perverted.  I certainly wouldn't have wanted any guys to start experimenting with each other in the same way I wanted to encourage women to.  But then I realized something; why not, exactly?

Sure, there's the whole being somewhere on the whole Kinsey Scale that makes me heavily inclined towards the female sex.  However, I'm not sure that it's much of a cause in and of itself since I've come to realize that the brain is actually very malleable, and if that's true, is there any scientifically-demonstrated reason why a person's sexual orientation can't shift?

I pondered that question for quite some time.  After intentionally exposing myself to gay porn(which didn't do all that much for me, at first), I began to realize other reasons why I was not at all into men:

  • The body hair is a turn-off for me, and still is to this day.
  • So many men have poor hygiene bad breath, so my unconscious mind generalizes this trait for all men.  I've only met one girl in my life who had foul breath.
  • Too many guys are completely out of shape.  The ones that aren't tend to either be super-skinny or have ridiculous muscles.
  • Men in porn, even gay porn, tend to be pretty ugly.  Truly handsome men are so few in numbers that they would likely experience success outside of the porn industry, hence a better alternative to permanently ruining one's reputation.
What I realized in coming up with these points is that while they are objections to common male traits, my objections have little to do with them actually being male.  Notice how neither my first objection nor my other objections involve the penis.

As a straight man, why was I not turned off by the penis alone?

What dawned on me was that I actually have a thing for penis.  

After all, I did(and still do) have quite a cum fetish.  At first it was just for the simple pleasure of seeing a woman take what could be my seed, but after years I had seen so much cumshot, cum swap, and bukakke/gokkun porn that the position of being the female and taking the cum was something that became more and more appealing.  Once I made the connection, it all made sense.

So I started to include some dick in my porn searches.  I realized that the occasional search for cumming dick pics got me off just about as well as looking at photos of pussy.  While not full on gay, I could no longer consider myself straight.  I was still a long way off from being truly bisexual, but I continued to mix penis and the occasional gay/trans imagery into my normal porn-viewing.

It wasn't until I got a new job in 2013 that I started to have a sexual attraction towards a guy.  At this new occupation, there was this one co-worker of mine; he was a young man of hispanic descent(probably in his mid-20s) with a somewhat skinny but very fit body with long flowing hair he used to tie back when doing work.  He maintained a masculine presence, especially due to the fact that he rode in every day on his motorcycle, yet he had a boyish and somewhat effeminate quality.  He was the first man I was ever attracted to, and since we only saw each other occasionally during the day there was a certain distance that kept things exciting.  It's a good thing that my occupation involved sitting down in front of a computer, because I remember a few times where I thought about him and his sexy lips; I got a few massive erections on the job from just thinking about him.  I wanted him to fuck me.  There were so many times after I arrived home where I would masturbate to thoughts of him.

I never got to pursue anything, though.  I knew he wasn't in to men and even then it's not a good idea to even ask a female coworker for sex let alone a male; I've learned the hard way that it's best not to shit where one eats.

Maybe I would have never pursued him even if he was single and interested in gay sex.  I don't know.  All I know is that from there on out I knew that I could be attracted to men, an idea that not long before then was completely foreign to me.  The pre-2011 me wouldn't have ever imagined having gay fantasies or being turned on by men.

After I left that job, I met a few other guys who I considered "fuckable" over the next few years.   While my preferences will always be biased heavily towards women, I now have no issues including a gay element in my pornography watching.  In fact, I want to further train my brain to become more aroused by men.  We'll see if it works.

I'm so glad that I discovered penis and that I can actually get excited at the idea of having gay sex.  So while everyone's sexual orientation should be respected, I sincerely encourage all of my readers to try homosexuality.  Even if it's just little things, see what you can find featuring your same gender that makes you aroused, if anything.  Explore whatever might just make you consider having sex with someone of your sex/gender.  Maybe even go as far as attempting to successfully masturbate to orgasm while watching gay porn(this contributed to my situation a lot, I think).

I encourage this because even if you are straight(or gay), you never know for sure if you like/dislike something until you try it, and you would certainly never know what you might be missing.  If I tried to enjoy gay porn and ended up realizing I'm straight as an arrow, then there was no harm done to me and I'd move on.  Had I not tried, I may have never realized that I'd been missing out on something.  Why live a life having never experienced something interesting or pleasurable?

Men: Consider what you could do with another penis that might allow you to experience pleasure that you can't currently get from a woman.

Women: Consider exploring another woman and try to understand what we men find so alluring about them.  Think about what it might be like to kiss a girl and rub a girl's pussy, and what it would be like for her to kiss and fondle you(and how it would be different and better/worse than if it were coming from a guy).

Gays/Lesbians: Consider heterosexuality.  Then again, you're surrounded by it so you're probably already familiar enough with it to determine that you are indeed homosexual.

If neuroplasticity and behavior modification make sense to you then why limit yourself to just the other sex if you can help it?  To a degree, I have become homosexual(bisexual, to be specific) and so can you.

Monday, May 4, 2015

Female Ejaculation Revisited - NEW SCIENTIFIC DATA!

A few years ago, I posted an article on my thoughts surrounding squirting.  Looking back on it, I had written it quite poorly.  Then again, I suppose it's difficult to write a good article with your dick in one hand!  On the other hand, I didn't cite my sources, which I find disappointing since it doesn't help me to know how I drew my conclusions.  Actually, just don't bother going back to read it.  Long story short, it was about how squirting and peeing are actually the same phenomena; "squirting" is really liquid that is generated rapidly in the bladder and squirted out the urethra.  Since the majority of men haven't actually witnessed a woman squirting in real life(and since a good deal of squirting porn is fake), they all assume that the liquid is pussy juice coming from the vaginal opening rather than the urethra.  There was even an early study that supported the theory that the generous amount of liquid being squirted during a squirter's orgasm comes from the urinary bladder.  Unfortunately, I did not cite the study.

So now it's time for me to make up for that blunder!

We now have conclusive scientific evidence that female ejaculation is often orgasm-induced peeing.

But that's not all!  Apparently, there are two kinds of female ejaculation!  Can you sense my enthusiasm?  Man, I love science.

One kind involves a small amount of milky fluid which comes from the Skene glands inside the urethra during orgasm, somewhat similar to male ejaculate.  I've never seen this in real life but in the past I have come across(and come to) some porn scenes where the woman is able to give herself a creampie.  I actually think this is tremendously hot but I can understand how that could be too weird for some.  It also seems rare.  This kind of female ejaculation has a very simple explanation too; its exact function is not well understood, though.  It would be interesting to know if a similar phenomena occurs in females of other primates or even other types of animals.  If this is something that only appears to happen in humans, the function would be even more of a mystery.  Maybe it's a male trait that is sometimes epigenetically switched on in some women.

The other kind of female ejaculation is what we are most familiar with: the pussy fountain.  The mechanics behind it has remained a mystery for quite some time and only recently have we begun to understand it.  After all, where exactly is all that liquid stored before it is ejaculated?  The problem(as some might consider it) with the answer to this mystery is that this kind of female ejaculate is actually a form of urine, which many people don't feel comfortable with despite the popularity of squirting porn on the net.

Find that truth a little uneasy to gulp down?  Here are some excerpts from the article that might make you wet your little panties(and get them up in a bunch):

To investigate the nature and origins of the fluid, Samuel Salama, a gynaecologist at the Parly II private hospital in Le Chesnay, France, and his colleagues recruited seven women who report producing large amounts of liquid - comparable to a glass of water - at orgasm.

First, these women were asked to provide a urine sample. An ultrasound scan of their pelvis confirmed that their bladder was completely empty. The women then stimulated themselves through masturbation or with a partner until they were close to having an orgasm - which took between 25 and 60 minutes.

A second pelvic ultrasound was then performed just before the women climaxed. At the point of orgasm, the squirted fluid was collected in a bag and a final pelvic scan performed.

Even though the women had urinated just before stimulation began, the second scan - performed just before they climaxed - showed that their bladder had completely refilled. Each woman's final scan showed an empty bladder, meaning the liquid squirted at orgasm almost certainly originated from the bladder.

A chemical analysis was performed on all of the fluid samples. Two women showed no difference between the chemicals present in their urine and the fluid squirted at orgasm.
The other five women had a small amount of prostatic-specific antigen (PSA) present in their squirted fluid - an enzyme not detected in their initial urine sample, but which is part of the "true" female ejaculate.

PSA, produced in men by the prostate gland, is more commonly associated with male ejaculate, where its presence helps sperm to swim. In females, says Salama, PSA is produced mainly by the Skene glands.

"This study presents convincing evidence that squirting in women is chemically similar to urine, and also contains small amounts of PSA that is present in men's and women's true ejaculate," says Barry Komisaruk, also at Rutgers.

"This study helps to reconcile the controversy over the fluids that many women report being released at orgasm," he adds. "There are evidently two different fluids, with two different sources. Whether either of these fluids plays a physiological role - that is, whether they serve any adaptive function, is not known."
There you have it.  If you are still turned on by "squirting" porn, you are aroused by orgasm-induced urination.  So what's wrong with that?  Nothing, in my humble opinion.  Then again, to each their own.

Remember to read the full article to discover yet another reason why I am glad that I do not live in the UK.

Saturday, May 2, 2015

Silicone lube FTW

It's been a while since I've done any product reviews.  I would like to do more in the future since I may be getting interested in trying toys(I hate using that word) and devices.

So anyway, I did a lube review a few years ago.  My conclusion was that the Astroglide X silicone lubricant was the downright best.  I've been using silicone ever since I discovered Astroglide X and I don't picture myself not using silicone.  It's been great for both sex and masturbation.

It has multiple things going for it:

  • Not sticky and there is practically no cleanup involved.  This also means no sticky hands once you finish.
  • It simply lasts longer.  One little squirt in your hand can last for an hour or more, even when masturbating.
  • Far less expensive than typical water based lubricants.  Unlike the silicone lubricants, I'd always have to "recharge" with another squirt of lube every 10 minutes(as an alternative I would rewet with a spray bottle).  The bottle of silicone lube itself can be over twice the price of the water based lube, but I've gone 6 or more months on the same bottle.
  • It works great for pool and jacuzzi sex, as advertised.
  • You can use it to lubricate moving parts in your power tools.

The only downside I can see is that some people don't like the silky texture of the silicone and find it to provide less stimulation than water based lube.  Of course water based lube is more like pussy juice, but I still enjoy the gentle feel that the silicone provides.  It's all a matter of taste, really.

So which brand, you say?  A year ago, I would have recommended Astroglide X.  It's not a bad option and you can't go wrong with it.  Now, I prefer Wet Platinum.

The both have different formulae: Astroglide X contains dimethicone and cyclomethicone, whilst Wet Platinum contains dimethicone, cyclopentasiloxane, dimethiconol, phenyl trimethicone.  Honestly, there is not much difference if any when it comes to feel or consistency.  So there isn't really anything to miss from Astroglide X in that department.

Wet Platinum is cheaper and you get an extra ounce(or more depending on what size you buy).  I also prefer the shape of the bottle both in aesthetics and function; it's a straight black bottle with a top clicks to toggle(instead of the flip top lid that Astroglide products have).

From my experience, it's super fun to lube up your girlfriend's tits with silicone lube and play with them from behind!

Ugly Women

I apologize to any straight female readers out there, as this is post is coming from a straight male perspective.

A little over a month ago, I had the flu bad.  Unlike anything I had experienced before(even depression), it had caused me to almost entirely lose my nutritional and sexual appetites.  A few weeks ago, I got an offer for a job with better pay; this has resulted in day after day of packing/moving/pad-searching, the stress of which has lead to a further decreased libido.  An individual who masturbated 1-2 times a day has gone from that to going several days or weeks without masturbating or watching porn.

So far, this hasn't been a very bad thing.  I think my over-exposure to internet porn and auto-erotic pleasure has caused an overall desensitization to things that should normally cause high levels of arousal.  I think I needed the break from all of it; I want my brain to return to a state where its own perverted thoughts cause massive erections and the hedonism of sex on the internet is more exciting again.

I'm not of the yourbrainonporn.com camp; while they have some great tips and motivational quotes on what I like to call "fapstainance", I feel their philosophy goes a bit overboard in villainizing something(porn) that humans have only just begun to experience and brings pleasure to people who may otherwise not have the opportunity to experience the same level of sexual arousal without it.  There are many things in everyday life that can cause us problems when in excess(sugar, alcohol, tobacco, weed, tattoos, video games, gambling, narcissism, etc.), but in small portions are relatively harmless.  I don't see porn very differently from anything else that a human can become addicted to(though clearly I would not recommend any amount of methamphetamine).  If you can recognize that porn is decreasing your quality of life, you have the power to change it yourself.  The problem is that 1st world culture in America has gotten used to the philosophy of learned victimhood; my life sucks, but it's someone else's fault, not mine!  Life in general has also become incredibly soft, and sometimes we have to hit rock bottom to get the motivation to make a change.  Believe me, I know all too-well.

Near the end of my regular porn/masturbation cycles, I had seemingly hit the end of the process of exploring more and more bizarre fetishes.  I've had many many fetishes since childhood(I remember having a urolagnia since I was roughly 7 or 8 years old), so the fact that I felt the need to watch weirder and weirder porn didn't faze me much.  But I was coming to the end where I had seen just about every variation of every position of every sexual act that has ever existed.  Even your standard amateur porn wasn't working that well for me anymore.  My dick was getting limp and I was desperately needing something else to make it stiff.

That something turned out to be ugly women.

Weird, right?  By ugly I don't mean morbidly obese, birth defects, or burn victims; I'm talking about what the media and 1st world society deems to be ugly or incredibly ordinary, which can include women who may be overweight, or frumpy, or nerdy(not like the ones on nerd porn sites), or gawky/gangly, or don't wear makeup, or have a weathered face, or older(but not MILFy), or have non-uniform tits, or are unkempt down under, or have unique proportions, etc.  I think you get the idea.  These are women you will never see on the cover of Cosmopolitan.

It was exciting, however, to find nude photos and videos of "ugly" women and sexualize them to a point where I could cum.  Oddly, the idea that I could even be aroused by these women and want to have their bodies was sexually thrilling.  I'd even fantasize that since "ugly" women aren't courted as often by attractive men, they'd want me so badly and I'd be bringing a little joy into their lives by fucking them hard and treating them like they are more beautiful and sexy than they and others think they are.  It was also exciting because the idea of desiring unattractive women and wanting to fuck them was also like giving the middle finger to all of the "beautiful" women out there who have narcissistic personality issues and believe that they are above almost everyone else.

Yes, not the most constructive thoughts around(perhaps borderlining misogynist), but it was an otherwise harmless fantasy.

I thought that this "ugly" fetish would go away after about a month of low sexual gratification; it turns out that the opposite may have happened, but not in the way that I expected.

It's funny how not masturbating or even stroking your cock can alter your behavior and thought patterns.  Gradually, I've become more aroused in general and I can thank my lack of porn-viewing for that.  What I've noticed is that I've been appreciating "ugly" women more and more now that I haven't been touching my penis or watching porn.  I've realized that I find at least 95% of women to be attractive in some way, including many of the ones that people find ugly.  The remaining 5% would include the morbidly obese, elderly, and those with severe birth defects.  Most women have at least one sexy aspect to them; whether it be their face, tits, ass, legs, hair, hips, fitness, voice, sense of style, confidence, open to sexploration, etc.  This also applies to women who are deemed "ugly", for me anyway.  Usually ugly women have at least one quality, small as it may be, that still sets them apart from the rest.  When you're a pervert like me and "perfect" women aren't cutting it anymore [for multiple reasons], an "ugly" chick with one awesome quality can sometimes outdo a girl who is universally considered desirable.  It just takes some depth for a person to realize a hidden attractive quality in someone else.  Fortunately for me, most people aren't very deep.

Honestly, I think it's pretty cool to be attracted to all sorts of women.  It's kind of like the poor man's bisexuality, since your pool of acceptable individuals is much larger.  I'd definitely recommend abstaining from so much as fantasizing about "perfect" women and try thinking about the ones that wouldn't normally come up first in your mind when waxing your carrot.  See what happens.  And perhaps the same could be said for female perverts out there who have swooned over the kind of men who are on magazine covers [or are bros] for far too long.

It makes me wonder; are there any attractive or even hot women out there who fantasize about fucking "ugly" guys for similar reasons?

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Auf Wiedersehen, Google!

Here I am again, with yet another content-less status update.

Google has just announced that they will no longer be allowing adult content on Blogger.  It's a real shame, since I believe that it is not only a hit taken by free speech(since a sizable lot of adult discussion and media is shared on Blogger) but a hit taken by this blog to be specific.  I don't update this thing anymore, or at least I haven't been.  Life has become far too busy for me and it's just difficult to write about your perversions when you have better things to focus your time on.  It's really become a quick wank and on to the next thing.

I do think this blog holds some value, despite my lack of activity; it receives over 100 unique visitors per-day!  That may not be much relative to many other sites and blogs, but I find it very impressive that even one person views my blog every day.  Multiply that satisfaction by 100, and you're looking at one pretty satisfied individual.

Even if I don't post ever again, I think this blog has a few snippets of unique content that should remain on the internet for new generations of perverts to read.  I'm not sure where I will be moving this blog to, and in the meantime I'll be looking for a blog host that will allow adult content and also has a nice interface with good features.

So stay tuned for the migration, I suppose, if you're interested.  I'll be living on my own(finally) in the next few months, so perhaps that will leave me more opportunities to begin writing new content for this blog.  Don't get your hopes up, though; I'm no longer making promises I can't keep.

- Autonomato

EDIT: Looks like Google backpeddled on their decision to remove adult sites from Blogger.  Nice!

Tuesday, December 2, 2014

Female Dandies

Though I haven't mentioned it much before, I have long had a fascination with gender roles and the mish-mashing of them in the sexual arena.  There are actually many men who like the idea of being treated like the "woman" - wearing hyper-feminine clothing - while they are dominated by a female who is "on top", so to speak.  Sure, that'd be fun.  I've yet to try it, but I'd certainly be open to trying the stereotypically "female" role during sex.

I didn't come here to write about that, however.  The topic of this post is sparsely-written about elsewhere, as I don't know how common it is or how "in the closet" people are about it.

I'm talking about female dandies.  The word "dandy" is a somewhat antiquated term that essentially means a male seductor who pays extra attention to fashion and cleanliness to the point of coming off as possibly gay(but less so than a 'metrosexual').  The clothing and demeanor of a dandy is subtle enough that they can charm women with feminine qualities that most men do not have while still remaining available and largely harmless.  An example of a dandy is Johnny Depp, an actor of slight-build who has no problem wearing costumes and makeup(a largely female activity) for roles in movies and wears stylish clothing in his free time.  Women adore him not because he is a symbol of masculinity but because he represents qualities that women see in themselves that they subconsciously desire in a sexual partner.

Male dandies come in far more shapes and sizes these days and while they aren't as common as other seductive archetypes, they are still far more common than female dandies.

Female dandies can be defined as the inverse of a male dandy, though female dandies are usually seen more as female cross-dressers as the fact that a woman is wearing stylish male clothing can be quite striking.  Evidently, there aren't many female dandies; a search for female dandies or female cross-dressers doesn't return much.  I don't know if this is because I am alone in this paraphilia or if the Pornography Producers of America don't see a market for it.

My guess is that men who like female dandies are less-common, yet they are more common than they seem to be; after all, there are plenty of men out there who desire to be "pegged" by a woman.  There must be men out there who secretly want to have sex with a woman wearing male clothing and acting like a man(or a man with a curves, tits, a pussy, and less hair).

I would certainly hope that female dandies and even tomboys become more appreciated, but hope is all I have.  And some photos: